I don't know if there's actually a way to fully "get over" any form of traumatic experience. What happened was a part of your life, and unless you obtain some form of amnesia, that entire part of your past is just that -- it's your past. There is no running away from it. No amount of time will ever diminish what happened, and that's the worst kind of thing to think about.

But what's worse is someone you trust to handle your emotions, your mental health and wellbeing, telling you what you "should" be. To me, someone as trusted as a therapist should not be as judging. That's akin to parents telling their child they shouldn't be homosexual.

While everyone has a right to free speech, no one has the right to tell you what you should or should not be. If you hurt, then you hurt... There is no "should" or "shouldn't" in any of that. You are who you are, your past is your own, no matter how much it may hurt, no matter how many people don't understand.

And always remember: You can change who your therapist is. You and only you have that ability to speak up and say that you are no longer comfortable with them. If you feel this can be resolved, perhaps next session you could explain to your therapist how you feel about what they said. And last but not least, you're always accepted here with hugs and love and understanding!