If I don't want to go, which is very rare, I email T. Because once I did that and she said okay, of course, but it would be good if you did come and we talk about it etc, so I went and I really benefitted.

So, I tried that again recently as I was feeling really bad, and T said okay, see you next time then. I thought ffs T! You're supposed to say, Red, please come if you can, I hope you're okay, I'd like to see you.....jeez.