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Originally Posted by justdesserts
Thank you for your interpretation of dependency! That is how it looks in my mind, too. I don't email more than once or twice a month and never expect (or get) a response. Texting is about the same, but he usually responds with a sentence. This is very much decreased from before. He wants to move from three sessions in a two-week period, to once a week in case I might be becoming dependent. After 18 months at twice a week, and three months at the current the schedule, part of me wonders if there's something inside of him that is triggered by me that makes him want to caretake me, even though I don't ask for it. I guess time will tell.
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With what you've written, I think that your theory may be correct. It sounds like projection on his part. You are absolutely and easily within perfectly acceptable bounds in terms of your expectations of him. I hate that he has planted that seed in your head.
If this is going to affect you and make you feel insecure about initiating reasonable contact outside of sessions, you should reconsider looking elsewhere if that is a possibility - either that or confront him with it.