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Old Feb 12, 2016, 06:22 PM
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Originally Posted by lolagrace View Post
The problem here is that the OP says she has no other options. Thus, if therapy is something she feels she needs, she may need to find a way to work through this, communicate constructively her concerns and need with this therapist, so she can get the therapy she needs. She says walking away leaves her with no options. In that scenario, what a person has to do is work through the discomfort (none of her issues with this therapist appear to be highly unethical or seriously unprofessional -- they seem to be things that perhaps with some good discussion and communication can be worked through). If she can't do that, then her only option, according to her, is to be without therapy altogether which doesn't seem to be what the OP wants to happen.

She has very particular and specific ideas about what she wants from a therapist which have made it very hard for her to find a new therapist. What may need to happen in order for her to continue in therapy is that the OP may need to find a way to communicate what she needs constructively and she will probably also need to do a bit of compromising about her expectations somewhat. I would guess a middle ground can be found, but it will take communication and a willingness to be okay with a middle ground I suspect in this case since she doesn't have the option to find a different therapist.
I'm surprised that people feel they have sufficiently intimate knowledge of the OP's issues and life to give these sorts of prescriptions, which in some cases (thinking of another recent thread especially) are quite elaborate and even aggressive. Also surprised that people assume the OP needs this in the first place.

Fundamentally i find hierarchy to be dangerous. I have seen how it erodes autonomy and dignity in therapy. If people experience it in therapy and then here too, is that healthy?