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Originally Posted by naia
There are subtle forms of abandonment, that's true. Still, what you have described seems to be outright client abandonment, which is covered by codes (depending on the state and type of T).
If you suffered, felt it as distress, already had issues with abandonment that your T knew about, then it can't be so easily dismissed.
Have you considered an advocate? or checking out the codes where you are? It's a drag to report, but if this T did this to you, then others might have the same thing happen. Reporting the T is not revenge; it's protecting yourself and others from mistreatment. Just thinking aloud.
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These subtler types of abandonment some people feel isn't written into the codes, unless there was a boundary violation of some kind. Otherwise, many of these situations can be explained as misinterpretation. It's much like a break up, really, with both people having very different versions of the same event. One one will inevitably claim to have been misunderstood - they never explicitly said the things the other person claims they did. Therapy is so often left open to interpretation that I do think some therapists have idea what impact they are on a client until it's too late. At that point, they may feel they can no longer provide adequate care (which is probably true) and that is a common basis for termination.
I'm not saying this is the right thing to do, just how it seems to play out. In my opinion, I think someone with attachment/abandonment issues may do well with structured, goal oriented therapy, because even though there is definitely a relationship, warmth and empathy there, it is still kept professional, with goals to work toward. I think this just makes it harder to create a dynamic of dependence, since the nature of the work is strengths based.