No matter how attractive you are, a good, stable male T should be able to talk to you without thinking sexually about you, unless of course what you say is very graphic. If that's the case, I would explore ways to set boundaries for yourself and discuss sexual issues in a way that is appropriate. I don't know if what you want to say is graphic in nature or not, but I have followed your posts about previous T and I know boundaries were crossed.

I understand that you don't like to talk to women, but maybe this is a challenge to explore further. I am just guessing but your distaste for female Ts and need to talk about sex with male Ts - and ultimately wondering if they are attracted to you - is an issue to address in of itself.