Well, this will sound weird.

Feel your spirit 2 ways, first when it feels safe - its there, its you. Then feel it when it is shoved down and repressed - then it is like a nothing. Well - before you go to the party (or during the party when you need to regroup) take a moment alone, and feel your spirit - alive, warm within you. Put it in a bubble so it doesn't get hidden within repression and fear. Hold onto yourself in a warm loving way when you interact. Remember, you are your first best friend.

When you are talking to someone, if you begin to feel tense, don't let your facial muscles squeeze - instead choose to squeeze your calf muscles and keep your face relaxed. Nobody is seeing your calves.

Conversationally, there is a lot of stuff on the web posted about what to say- or not to. Remember not to make it heavy. If you get asked personal questions that make you uncomfortable just say, "meh, this is a party (smile and wink) lets just have some fun". Remember be true to yourself, what you do say should be honest without divulging. Always let time teach you when to unfold, then do so like a flower.

You can have 1 or 2 drinks to unwind, but try not to have more then 3. You want to be relaxed without being the life of the party (if you know what I mean)

If you want to bring a prop - a conversation piece, use something small. Tiny rubix cube, funny hat, flowers up your sleeve, bouncy ball. If your bored, pull it out and give it a go - or challenge someone. Sometimes keeping something in your pocket that is small, but that you love can give you confidence if you just hold it. I have a favorite rock. I don't show people that. There is a difference between a confidence item and a prop.

All fun begins with loving yourself and being your best friend. I got over weight recently after being the cute tiny one all my life. It has been a hassle not to just HATE myself. I can promise you - you are worthy of being liked, being loved.

Attractiveness is a combination of factors. These are my top 3.
1. Confidence without arrogance.
2. Hygiene (a sweaty mechanic with clean teeth is cool - a man in a suit with a booger is not)
3. Consideration of others. (don't be a doormat - but don't use your elbows to push yourself forward= kindness with flexible strength)

Have fun! Remember, a smile takes less muscles then a frown. Be lazy and SMILE!