I'm not abusive.
But I do get hateful. And I'm ashamed of it.
It's always when the other person disappointed me or doesn't meet up to my standards.
My brother in law for example. Started a conversation about how cheap Costa Rican Prostitutes are,and that my husband should get himself a few.
All of this while I was laying in the hammock right in front of both of them and we were newlyweds. What an *****.