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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
I think 17 year olds should be and act 17. It's a shame that you have received pressure to pretend to be grown up when you are not grown up. Not physically and not emotionally. It's a developmental thing.
While I don't think your mom should call anyone "white trash"; she has your interests at heart.
A 23 or 24 year old woman is too old for you. Before you get all upset at what I have just written, please consider this. If this deep passion you feel for "Katie" is enduring; it will last until you turn 18, when you legally become an adult (even though physically and emotionally you still won't be an adult. It's a developmental thing).
So I recommend you chill. Nothing wrong with exchanging a few pleasantries in public on the job--although "flirting" on the job is just wrong. But keep away from Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or any of the other social media with "Katie" until you're an adult. I doubt you'll like what I have written. But I think for everyone concerned it is for the best. Concentrate on your students, on work, on platonic friendships, and save the sturm und drang romance until after you turn 18.
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I appreciate your honesty, actually. I agree with several things you said - I definitely wish I could connect better to people my age, it's caused me more problems than I care to relate over the course of the last couple years. Also I have no social media (simply because my mother demanded that when I DID have a Twitter and Instagram that she have all the passwords and monitor what I post, not worth her overbearing BS to me).
The issue is that even after I turn 18, I cannot have any form of relationship with Katie. My parents expressly forbid it because in their mind I am still living under their roof and in school, therefore subject to their strict rules about who I can and cannot hang out with (I am almost 18 and can't even go to a friends house without their parents being home. My mom calls.) They actually told me if they found out I was with Katie after I turn 18, they'll kick me out and I can "go live with her". Sadly I have to live with them until I'm almost 19 before I can transfer my A.S. to the 4-year university I want to attend because of some academic year gap requirement. I'm afraid of being disowned if I ever try to have a relationship with Katie, but I care so much about her and I feel torn between not wanting an estranged relationship with my parents, and having the relationship I desperately want with Katie.