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Originally Posted by ptangptang
Yep people are strange arn't they. As you say some meet up groups are very cliquey and if they perceive you are not going to be 'one of them' they freeze you out. That's what I think happened, eg the photo and the age difference. It's the herd instinct. Remember back at school. Same thing. Could be also that you were a bit
over sensitive. As divine said ' drive safely' is just a throwaway farewell line.
I would give it another chance. Make a point of talking to the people who you thought were friendly and tell them how you felt last time but admit some of it could be down to you.
I hate being in photos too. I am a very short man and not very photogenic and am always the shortest in a group by quite a bit. I had to leave one meetup group through being ridiculed because of my height. It does make you wonder if trying to get out and socialise is worth the effort. But what's the alternative.
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You are right about what you said unfortuantely. Most groups do have that weird herd mentality. As for that one comment about driving safely, no, that didn't upset me. That was fine and normal. What DID really get to me was that every single woman there turned their back to me soon after I refused to have my pic taken. WTH?
It was so obvious that they didn't want to talk to me. It was so rude! There is no way in hell that I would ever put myself through that again. Being rejected by a whole group at once was enough to make me go home and drink! Ugh! Eff people like that! If they are going to be that judgemental, to hell with them! I have a right to not want my pic taken, and I was NOT rude about it! I think that organizer was rude for taking surprise pics relentlessly to try to get everyone in it. She even asked me to be in the pic after I told her that I didn't want to be in it. WTH? Ugh!
I'm sorry to hear that people were mean to you because of your height. I hope that the people in the meetup group weren't the ones being mean to you. That's very rude. No wonder some people don't like having their pic taken! We're self concious enough w/o having our flaws pointed out! You wouldn't go up to someone and say, wow, you're quite heavy, or ugly, OK, how about being in a pic now? LOL! What the hell is wrong with morons like that? Ugh!