Thanks. Yes, Iīm hesitant because of my previous experience and also because this is my only chance to get therapy after having to wait and go through different kind of evaluations before I got to meet with this T.
I agree with you that what happens in therapy are nearly as important as the problems you went to therapy for. But in my case, talking about the transference relationship isnīt something this T generally do. Itīs something I brought up in the beginning and she understood I expected that we work on transference.
It seems a bit like she doesnīt normally get clients who question her or think about the relationship per se, itīs more about focusing on childhood issues for example.
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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
Hi Sarah, I'm joining this discussion a bit late. But here are my thoughts - For me, the mark of a good T is not whether or not they take notes or lead the conversation, or how they handle the end of the session. Instead it is how they handle it and respond when a client brings up their feelings about these things. Which I guess you don't know yet how your T will respond if you say something like : 'I'm not sure I like you taking so many notes'. I think that you feel really hesitant to question anything because of your previous bad experience? Maybe that would be useful to talk about - to say that you have some thoughts about how you are working together but you are kind of afraid to say them? Is it because you fear rejection? For me these kind of conversations are more therapeutic than talking about things in my life. I hope you can work things out with this T, I remember that it has been hard for you to find a T.
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