[QUOTE=SarahSweden;4916651]Thanks. Yes, that´s correct, I´ve read a bit about therapy and I´ve also seen different kind of T:s.

You mention a very fundamental thing in this matter that the T may not change even if I tell her what I think and what has made me frustrated. I don´t know her that well yet to decide what "type" she is. I can absolutely accept that she takes notes in the beginning but not that she continues taking notes and spends times getting back to her notes while talking to me.

I really think that letting her know that the constant note taking is distracting to you is a critical thing. Perhaps it's a good place to "test out" her openness to getting feedback from you. I'm sorry that your last therapist was so opposed or uncomfortable with constructive feedback. I know that you're worried about being referred on once again, but I have to ask you, is therapy really going to work for you if you have to sit across from a person who is irritating you and creating smoldering resentment because she's doing something that really and truly bothers you? I'd go bonkers! It's hard enough going to therapy to talk about troubling issues but if you can't talk about what's bothering you in the here and now, then I can't believe that the therapy is going to be very effective. If she refers you on or she reacts badly and puts up the icy front of disapproval, then you can decide that perhaps no therapy is better than that kind of therapy. I've often been pleasantly surprised when I gathered up the courage to speak up about what was bothering me in my treatment and found that the therapist quickly readjusted to meet my need. I hope you give it a try. Let her know how she can serve you best. As someone else mentioned in the earlier posts, we can challenge our therapists and people in real life in ways that aren't angry or resentful. Find a way to word things in a way that lets her know that you feel strongly that if she gives you her full attention instead of taking notes, you'll be much more open and comfortable with the process.

The thing about the lenght of the session, of course I understand she can´t always entend that time but in this case she´s being inconsistent as she has arrived late every time and then she thinks it´s ok to point out that we had gone past time a few minutes.

Not okay for her to be consistently late and then remind you that she's gone over. My response would be to politely say while looking at my watch, "Well actually, you came out to get me five minutes late, so the extra three minutes are actually your way of giving me my full session. Thanks!"