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Originally Posted by hvert
It sounds like your husband isn't the best person to take these issues to, because he doesn't get it the way you do. I'm guessing that when you go to him, you aren't looking for practical advice so much as you want to be heard.
I also hate being in group photos and don't like being hugged. Sometimes I will put my hand up in front of my face to block the photo, other times I will ask not to be photographed, sometimes I will just go along with it because saying something or moving is too hard. I'm trying to become more relaxed about that stuff because I do think it can be off putting for others. As I get older, I'm realizing that I can't have X without giving up a little Y, I guess, and I'd rather have X than Y.
So, yeah, everything yagr said  |
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You're right, he's not the best person to talk to about these things. First of all, he's stoic and most emotional topics seem to either baffle or annoy him. I still like to get his side of certain situations though. He is set in his ways and quite judgmental too which I hate.
He is always honest with me though. I do need him to both listen to me and to give me advice. He can never really relate to most of what I go through though. It seems like not even most of my friends would be able to relate to me when it comes to some things.
I'm glad to see that I'm not the only person on here who hates being in pics-
I do the same things that you do, lol! I am really self conscious now, more than ever since I'm still 80lbs. overweight. I look big in all my pics no matter what, so I hate them even more than I used to. It doesn't help that people have called me fat to my face, a couple of mean grown men who didn't even know me called me a fat cow to my face! WTH? I told them both off of course, how rude!
And a few women have had the nerve to ask me if I was pregnant. WTH? Ugh! So I don't want other people looking at me and go, is she pregnant? Wow, she sure has put on a ton of weight! Or wow, that woman is obese! Who'd want that?
If someone can't or won't respect my boundaries, then I refuse to make exceptions for them. Fair is fair after all. Like someone else on here said, if someone can't respect a small boundary like that, then what else are they not going to respect? That sums up things perfectly.