In reading your post, you say that you have made the changes you have needed to with your life. You have brought her back in & taking care of her needs......You have appoligized.

If your actions truely reflect the changes you have made in your life, they you have pretty much done everything you can on your part to fix the relationship.

It is up to her to see these changes & forgive. Don't know how long she has been back with you & given a chance to see these changes but it's up to her to fogive & get on with life & stop holding onto old grudges.

I guess if is were my daughter, I would confront her & ask her what she needs to see to be able to forgive you for the past. You both need to communicate about the situation & bring it into that level. If she can tell you more things that need to change, than it is up to you to know if that is a reasonable request & if so, is it something you can do?

If she can't communicate that there is anything more you can do & it is her that just can't let go, then she needs to realize that is something she has to do & that being around you isn't going to make her do that. If this is the case, then in my opinion, it seems that she needs to be alone & get her thoughts & values together so that she can find it in her heart to let go of her anger. She may need therapy since some people cant do this on their own, but she will need to come to terms with her own anger & that isn't anything you can change as long as you have done everything on your part to make your changes & she can see the actions are really different.

I think that once that communication has happened, then you can determine the necessary housing arrangement. If there is nothing that can be done to change her anger, then both of you should know that it is best to not live under the same roof....it should be a mutual agreement at that point......if not, you don't need to live around that anger & need to get her out of your house. I find that when I live around anger, it brings me down....it tends to make me feel anger.....at myself....at the other person. It just isn't a healthy emotion to have being a constant 24/7 in your environment.

Hope this makes some sense.....relationships are tough, but communication & getting things understood as far as how each other feels is the most important thing for making decisions like what you are asking.

Debbie