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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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I can understand how you feel. Some people aren't good with learning other languages though. I tried to learn my husbands lanuage, and trust me, it's very hard! I tried to speak a few words in his language, but I could never be fluent in it! It's much harder than Spanish and French for sure, and I never got past a certain point in school after trying to learn it.
So I did make an effort to learn it and speak it. I still got rejected and judged, ugh! So I gave up. Why try to please other people who won't even have the decency to try to talk to me in English when most of them speak it so well? It's truly insulting to me. If the situation was reversed, I'd try to talk to them in English!
Also, I have never liked hugging that much. Let alone kissing. Especially with strangers. Yuck! I worry about bad breath, and to me, to be that intimate with a stranger is just weird IMHO. I wouldn't go to Europe and expect them to act like an American, so why would foreigners come here and expect us to act like them? Does that make any sense? I hear what you're saying though.
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If you've tried and it's difficult then I feel he's completely out of line. I don't personally mind hugs and cheek kissing, even new to family provided it's done in a family atmosphere, if that clarifies? I hear you about strangers, gosh if I walked into a pta meeting with that expected stated or otherwise I'd be weirded out, especially where there's a diversity level as high a percentage as it is here. If not family, I'm really not about being addressed like family. Hugs and cheek is formal in informal surroundings, meaning it's a formality even as today with new to me 'family' at my sister's baby shower. For instance, in leaving that was the goodbye gesture between myself and the mother of my sister's fiance. A handshake upon entry.
Not sure why your husband finds your feelings weird?
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