You are in a tough situation for sure. He has been supportive, but sometimes even supportive comes to an overload point. It's kinda like your cutting....something is building up inside to cause that releast. It sounds like your husband's had the stress of the relationship building up inside without anyway to release it. His only protection is to back away to take care of himself.

You are starting therapy....this is very positive......it sounds like what he needs is to see that you are doing something to make the needed changes.....maybe he wants you to stay home this & see how you are doing. It sounds like he needs to see some indication that you are willing to work on your problems & not just sit back & let them happen.

I think if it were me, I would really start focusing on the problems of the ME.....take them seriously & make sure that he sees this positive change in you. When we love someone & don't want to lose them, sometimes we have to make sure we work on the things that are a problem. It would also be a good thing to get couples therapy....so it gives you both a safe forum to talk things over in so the marriage can be worked out rather than loosing it.

Just some thoughts & suggestions,
Debbie