"Well, getting out and about isn't easy, so I don't go out and do much. If I do, it's usually just to the movies and then back home. Aside from that, it is quite possible I do do that Tisha. Yet, even when things have been good and the conversation has been about other things. Ppl usually don't contact me, unless of course they want something. So when I do contact, or reach out to them it's when I'm having a serious moment. Just seems it's damned if I do, damned if I dont."

You hit on a very important point there that I've noticed, too.

People don't contact you unless they want something. Even if they are friends. They want someone for company to go somewhere with, they are networking for business, they are bored of going out with just their spouse and want another couple to entertain them, they want money, they want you to support their cause, sometimes they are an old friend and they want to reminisce, etc...

It sucks, but that's the way it is. So, if you want company (and yes, you want something from people, too), you need to be good company and offer something of yourself to make people want to be around you.

As a lonely, single person, I think it's best to reach out to others for company often. Are you a good cook? Invite someone over for dinner and good conversation. Tell people how much you appreciate them.