Mostly it was a not clicking thing. It was sometimes just a complete ambivalence for the therapist; no strong feeling one way or another. The couple of women I tried out started disclosing far too much personal abuse history very early on which was a huge red flag to me; they also seemed rather pitying and insincere in their "empathy". Just turned me off. But the others I simply just didn't feel strongly about one way or another. Very different from the three I worked with long-term; with those I knew from the very first meeting that we had a very natural rapport with each other; very comfortable, very astute, very straight-forward. My instincts didn't fail me.