I voted We didn't "click"--I have a hard time seeing male therapists but I tried out three of them. The first one was waaaaaaay too intense for me in the initial few meetings. I felt like I was some kind of bug. The other guy was someone I was really interested in working with as he was an Eriksonian trained therapist, but he spent the entire few sessions I went to him typing on his laptop computer--I mean he was a GREAT typer, his fingers flying across the keys taking down every word I said, but man, that really killed any kind of contact between the two of us. The third guy just wasn't on the same page as me--kept trying to use Motivational Therapy techniques with me and since I had been trained in those techniques, I found myself sitting there and saying to myself, "Well, there he goes again, using Blah blah blah technique." Very distracting.

I also chose inappropriate for a few therapists I gave a test run to because of their behavior (none sexual). One therapist, who I went to discuss the ramifications of some serious health issues I had, proceeded to tell me for the entire session about her history of health problems. Man did that give me a headache. Another one wanted me to know about her "angel experiences"--I couldn't get out of there fast enough. With another try out therapist, I had told her that I wasn't ready to talk about a particular experience but I'd let her know when I'd reached a point that I felt it was time to open up about it. She agreed and thanked me for letting her know what my boundary was. I went to a second session and she blindsided me with an abrupt challenge about the issue and then when I reacted in a stunned manner (dissociated for a few moments), she just sat there and stared at me. I got myself together, thanked her and left.