Husband says this is his issue "I was an only child who likes the TV on because I didn't want to feel alone. I was always trying to be too perfect. I get too in my head worrying about the exact way of doing something worrying about what would feel natural or be my own instinct to do sexually, trying to match her expectations of what she wants. Painful hesitation caused a reaction within her that was interpreted as not being interested. Desire, passion, lust was there with a little anxiety. Once the anxiety is gone, the sex is really good."