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Originally Posted by Plum90
Happened to me a lot after alters started gaining the confidence and trust to interact with the therapist, which I believe took a few months before I started noticing it. I found it to be quite frustrating but ultimately it turned out to be a positive sign and opened the doors for some leaps in progress.
Something I eventually realized in retrospect is that some of my alters had solid reasoning to challenge the therapist, based on their perceptions.
1. Therapist was a woman in a position perceived as superior, which reminded some alters of my mother.
2. Therapist asked questions for which the answers were considered secrets for various reasons.
3. Therapist figured out the existence of the alters, which in and of itself was a huge secret, and one that was taken rather than willingly given away in the perceptions of some alters.
4. Therapist tried to reassure and gain trust, which some alters (especially one in particular) had learned was a warning sign of malice to come.
In other words some protectors were just doing their jobs. Many of my experiences losing time or getting very foggy-minded in therapy turned out to be protectors testing, gauging and challenging the therapist. This was a necessary process.
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I believe this has happened to me in the past few sessions, tho there's been a lot of upset that they don't trust her... So I'm not sure what's going to happen... They still seem to have good control over my feelings and are making me not trust her either... They'll yell and scream at me in session which is making it very hard to stay present and grounded...
I don't know what to do if they never gain her trust... Seems like it's going to be a lot of time wasted if I can't get them on board... I admit, I think they have good reason to not... Tho I'm trying to get that turned around with her...