No, there is never an excuse to be abusive. That's part of what I was saying.. The second part is that acting in an "abusive" fashion is a bad behavior slip that I don't believe anyone is immune to.... have you never gotten in to an argument and ended up flying off the handle and ended up reeming someone out?...acting abusive doesn't nessecarily make you an abusive or even bad person. It can simply be a temporary lapse in judgement that leads to an inappropriate or insensitive response that is uncalled for and leaves another feeling crappy. * Note that I am not saying it is EVER ok, nor am I meaning in ANY WAY to trivialize or condone abuse! I am merely stating that if someone can identify that they are or have behaved badly toward another and wishes they hadn't..... That makes us Human not Abusive.