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Originally Posted by AllHeart
It might be a good idea to ask yourself why you feel you need to give your t a Valentine card. What are your intentions? Once you uncover your true intentions ask yourself if the card is really necessary and then make the decision.
It's wonderful to give cards, gifts, compliments, praise, and all that good stuff to people when it is done solely from the heart. Even then, there needs to be balance -- it shouldn't be overdone. When giving is done with an expectation or hope for something in return like love, friendship, security in the relationship, whatever, then that discredits you. It doesn't make giving genuine and that doesn't serve the giver or the givee.
I am a naturally caring adult that loves to give all kinds of gifts from my heart. That said, I would highly advise against giving your t the V-day card. Even if your intentions are pure and from the heart, it's too much.
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I think I just want to give it to her because I care about her and want to make her happy. I don't expect anything from it. While I do want her to love me or something, that isn't why I want to give her gifts. I just like to get things for people.
And while I really do appreciate everyone's advice, I don't quite understand what's wrong with giving her a little card for Valentine's day. Kids give their teachers gifts pretty often, and I give my mom and friends stuff for holidays. I feel like my relationship with my T is closer than with any teacher, and I like her as much as I like my family and friends. It's not like I spent a lot of money or anything, and the card just says something about her being special and wishing her smiles for V-day.