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Originally Posted by ilikecats
I think I just want to give it to her because I care about her and want to make her happy. I don't expect anything from it. While I do want her to love me or something, that isn't why I want to give her gifts. I just like to get things for people.
And while I really do appreciate everyone's advice, I don't quite understand what's wrong with giving her a little card for Valentine's day. Kids give their teachers gifts pretty often, and I give my mom and friends stuff for holidays. I feel like my relationship with my T is closer than with any teacher, and I like her as much as I like my family and friends. It's not like I spent a lot of money or anything, and the card just says something about her being special and wishing her smiles for V-day.
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I think to most of us it's just not a valentine relationship. She's not your mom, not your friend, and kids giving teachers gifts is a whole different world from therapy. (The gifts also tend to decrease as students mature.). Yes, you're close because of the nature of therapy, but it's not the closeness you have with family or friends.
I also think from her perspective she probably already knows you care about her and want to make her happy, but I don't think a card will do that for her. I would imagine she would rather see you progressing in therapy even more than you already have.
Eta: Professional is the word I was looking for. You have a professional relationship between adults. Few of those involve the giving of valentines.