I don't post here anymore but in response to the above, logged on to say that I don't think it's a big deal like the others are saying. Really, many people don't think of Valentines day as a romantic holiday just as many do not think of Christmas as a religious holiday.

I've read many gift threads here where clients give Ts very intimate and hand made gifts such as poetry and paintings. Certainly a child valentine isn't as intimate as those gifts are.

Of course i am as biased as anyone else. WHile I am not giving my T something for valentine's day, my child parts used to email my T hearts and childlike notes of affection. My parents rejected any self expression and feelings of affection from me.. All those parts long repressed came out in therapy, including expressions of affection. I can also relate to wanting to make my T happy--that was another childlike feeling that emerged in therapy. It wasn't anything pathological.

What I am saying is that I think it's ok. Probably not a good idea for all T/client relationships, but I don't think it's a big deal in your case ILC and this all seems a bit overreactive in my view.

So there's one person who doesn't agree with the mainstream thought here. Just another view to add to the thread.