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Originally Posted by BudFox
So that's it? The T can set off a bomb in the person's life and then exit because they are in over their head? That is exactly what my T did. No consequences, just adios. Ethics codes are really liability documents intended to protect Ts.
If the client feels abandoned or exploited or used, they were. My T tried to interpret the experience for me, insisting that it was good for me, when clearly it had wrecked me. That itself is abusive and exploitive. If you want to know the real outcome, ask the client not the T.
Or maybe people with attachment/abandonment issues should stay far away from therapy. Forming an uncertain and ambiguous and tenuous attachment to a stranger, fiddling with maternal/paternal deficits from infancy, playing with intense longings in the make-believe world of therapy… it now seems totally nuts to me. It is not that hard to evoke and incite such longings. Then what?
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I've heard many people say that everyone can benefit from therapy, but I don't agree. There are a lot of people who don't benefit from it at all and like we've read about here, can be hurt by it. I think for most people, firm boundaries need to be in place in order for therapy to be safe. In some ways, therapy should be work akin to physical therapy, where people don't always want to go but choose to because it helps them reach a goal. When someone goes for more abstract purposes, the dynamic may only exacerbate an existing problem.