T said - I wonder why a massage? Your felt abandoned when I left you? You didn't feel you belonged any more.

Yeah, I felt abandoned.

T - a young baby begins to feel they belong when they are caressed/held by their mother.

Me - I feel I am shouting inside that I need you to take this seriously.

T - my silence feels like I am telling you that you don't belong?

Me

Me- Yeah, it does.

More was said. But felt 'fed' when I left.

This is why a T talking it on their own back to hug a client is for the benefit of the T's ego. It's not resolving any issues.