I trust my T, but I'm not close to her like so many seem to be even though I've been with her for 4 years. Sometimes I'm a little jealous of what I read about other's Ts. It may be that we just don't click that way. I think alexandra_k makes a good point about therapy styles though. It sounds like you'd probably like the ones based on the relationship, that this would serve you more. I believe most therapists will tell you their theoretical orientation before you schedule an appointment.