I agree with Angie......it is most important to fix ourselves...figure out who we are & what we are all about & even work on fixing the problems we find out about. That is a huge task.

The problem is if we go back to those people before we have truely fixed ourselves, they may continue to throw the past at us which can cause more damage than good. It can make us feel that we haven't changed even though our intentions are working on it.

It is best to become the person you want to be, then go back & show them who you are.
Debbie