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Originally Posted by BudFox
I think the danger in any sort of attachment to a T is that the caring can seem so real. But it is always an act. In the isolation of therapy, it's easy to lose perspective and to feel as though this person is in your life.
My T wanted me gone as quickly as possible once I threatened what she really cared about -- her self image and necessary delusions, her practice, her feelings. Suddenly I was reminded that I meant little to her. A mere client.
It's the experience of a personal relationship confounded with that of a business consultation. Betrayal and abandonment are easily rationalized, while still inflicting plenty of harm. Business is business. It is what it is. The customer is always wrong.
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The caring for many of us was very real and not an act. I think the difference may be in various people's perspective of what is real in the context of the function of the relationship. Every relationship has a context and it is important to understand that context and keep that in perspective. But I know without a doubt that the care and relationship with my therapists was genuine and real and not just an act for the therapy hour.
I am so sorry your therapist handled things so badly and that you were so badly harmed. I realize your experience and perspective is just as real as my own and as every individual's here. I hope you can understand that we each have our own experience and no one perspective is universal for all therapy relationships.