From what I've read in your thread, I think the issue is two fold...


Can you truly know someone AND accept them.


I think certain people can and do have the ability to eventually be transparent, regarding who and what they are. But then the snag is, will we be accepted when we reveal all of us.


Some of us reveal the good the bad and the ugly and are luckily met with acceptance. That's not to say my "ugly" has been given my bf's stamp of approval, but just that it happened and I'm accepted anyway, as I don't want to keep repeating the bad and the ugly. Others, not so much.


Maybe its their fault for being horrid or doing horrid things, or maybe they miscalculated and revealed themselves to the wrong party.


I'm sorry to hear you've chosen to disconnect from others, and hope you can heal from this experience.