I'm still in shock over this. I cried all night, my head hurts.
The thing is, he's always been very professional. The only red flag I've seen over several years is his not taking responsibility for anything.

One of the main reasons I quit was because I felt the way he did therapy was having a negative affect on my self worth. he never said good things about me or encouraged me. I don't mean complimenting me, but in ways I read about hear all the time on this forum from those who have good relationships with their Ts. I've wanted him to change his approach a bit, thinking some flexibility is reasonable for any therapist. After trying a few times, I decided to quit.

I did send him an angry email to give him a heads up about quitting. He said it was insulting and demeaning. Now I see that could have been. But it was mostly about how his therapy approach was harming me--not about him personally. I know I was angry; I really regret showing my anger to him.

Our whole session consisted of telling me how bad I am. I was trying to do something for myself to try to improve my self worth, and now I feel the lowest ever. It backfired. I don't think i'll ever get over the things he said about me. He said any problems I had with the therapy were transference. I kept disagreeing. I told him bad shameful stuff about myself, and now I know how he truly felt about me all this time.

I don't think I can get myself to ever see another therapist again. Thank you for your support.