How many coping strategies have you learned from your T?
Or the forum?

Do you go to a support group thru NAMI DBSA ?

I have a theory that some of my ability to remain sane is based on when past traumas decide to stop hurting me.

When I bring an event up to my husband, he always says,"You told me that before.". It's as if just saying it once is enough to cure me forever.

My husband has a very close relationship with his former sister in law.
It may even be he respects and feels more affection for her than me.

She knows he's bad in bed. Her sister left him because he's not interested in sex. She also experimented with him and tried to teach him stuff,long before I married him.

She's also the body type he claims to be interested in, but her sister is that body type too and that went nowhere.

I guess I'm telling you this to strengthen you. A mental connection with another woman can be far more damaging than a one night stand.

So. Be strong. Look after yourself first. Don't imagine things. Wait till you have more information.