Do I have this correct?

1. You are seeing a T right now, for whom you have feelings. Your feelings for him have influenced your staying with him as your T.

2. Your T's T (TT) has a podcast he thought you might like. You listened to TT's podcast and decided to contact him.

3. You did not tell TT that you were a client of T's.

4. You did tell T that you were going to see TT, and he encouraged you to do so.

5. You went to TT to talk about George Anderson. For whatever reason, he charged you for this session (albeit at a discounted rate), despite the fact that it apparently was not about therapy or your T. This happened two months ago.

6. You are still e-mailing with TT, but you have still not told him that T is your therapist.

7. TT mentioned that you are with your current therapist because you have feelings for him. You did not tell him that you have feelings for your current therapist.

8. TT did not mention T's name (?), just that your current therapist is one you have feelings for.

9. Because you have never mentioned anything about your current therapist (?), you assume that TT knows that you are T's client.

I am with all the folks who suggested that in the event that things are as they appear to you, and that TT knows you are T's client and knows some details about your that only T does, that it is TT who has violated confidentiality (your T's). It is possible that T did as well, but even if he had accidentally done so, it's up to TT to maintain T's confidentiality since according to you, he has no reason to know that you and T are associated. It's like when I bump into my therapist in public. He does not acknowledge we know each other unless I do, even though of course he knows we know each other.

I think it's wholly possible that your T didn't break confidentiality at all, and as has been suggested previously, that between the details you gave TT, and things T may have mentioned in his own therapy, that TT has put it together. But it's also possible that he did break it entirely -- it's hard to know now, but it would be very plausible to me that he actually didn't.

Things that aren't clear to me:

- In what context did TT say that you had feelings for your current therapist? Can you ask him why he said it? Is it possible he drew that conclusion from other things you said?

- Did he use T's name? Again, is it possible he drew a conclusion based on stuff he knows about your therapy, without realizing that your therapist is T? I'm just really confused by this.

- Do you talk to TT about more than just George Anderson, or was this mention of therapy completely out of the blue?

- Why didn't you tell TT that you were T's client? I'm not saying it's your fault or judging you, I am just curious. I can imagine a few reasons, but it does seem a little odd to me.

- Why did TT charge you for a session that wasn't therapy? If it WAS therapy, why didn't he ask you if you area currently seeing a therapist? I've never seen a therapist who didn't ask me if I was already working with someone else, and if so, who. I've also never had to pay someone to talk about a life experience, like seeing a medium.

All of this makes me feel a little creeped out by TT. Less so by T, although it was not terribly bright of him to tell you who his therapist was, much less encourage you to see him. I can't say I'd be in favor of continuing to interact with either one.