First of all: don't assume his marriage isn't "working out." He may be perfectly happy with his marriage just the way it is and with who he has for a wife. More than likely, that is the case. Remember Bill Clinton's interest in women he wasn't married to. (I know you are young, but you've heard about it. ) Hillary recently said in an interview that she always knew he loved her, despite his antics. It seems he did and does. Some men just like to see how many women they can find who will respond to them. That's probably a natural inclination that men are prone to have, which higher values cause some men to suppress. It's a boon to his ego to think that other women want him.

He senses that you are impressed with him. He would love for you to tell him that you have "feelings." By now, his wife has a more balanced view if him. She knows how his farts smell and what he looks like picking his nose. He'ld love to re-experience the admiration of a young woman who doesn't know how his feet stink at the end of a hard day. He'll never have that again with his wife. But why would you want to tell him that you have a crush on him? You're imagining that the future may "hold" something for the two of you? Like what?

So you've decided not to be a "homewrecker" and to "give his marriage a chance to work out?" That's very big of you. Then, again, you may be way less of a threat to his marriage than you imagine.

It is perfectly natural for a married man to feel attracted to women other than his wife. It is perfectly natural for a young woman to feel attracted to men who are already taken. That doesn't mean that either of them is in some kind of a "position." The idea that being true to oneself means not ignoring one's true feelings is complete and utter nonsense. If you were working with someone you disliked - which will happen now and then - you wouldn't feel compelled to tell the person that. The feelings you have about people are absolutely none of their business. On the job, it's often smart to keep it that way.