hey. yep! you deserve a little professionalism in your interactions. the nuts and fruits shouldn't be the people you are paying to work with!

not sure where you are in california... but i'd suggest checking out the psychoanalytic institutes and maybe working with someone in training (since that variety of therapy often isn't covered by health insurance and training therapists are often willing to work on sliding scales). see for example:

http://www.pincsf.org/

http://www.npi.edu/about.html

http://www.californiapsychoanalyticsociety.org/

etc (more available through google)