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Originally Posted by BudFox
In my experience, the combination of the emergence of childlike neediness and no contact between sessions might be a recipe for a ton of dysregulation and distress. When these attachment needs come out, as someone wrote, the person naturally desires proximity to the attachment figure.
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Exactly this. If you are already wanting to occasionally text your t, attaching to him is going to intensify that desire by 100. If you can't contact t when you need to, all kinds of horrible feelings like rejection and false caring might come up. Things you do not want to deal with. I'm not trying to discourage you from attaching. I just want you to know as much as you can before you dive into it because dealing with attachment issues is a very serious thing. The power of attachment is often underestimated with therapists. If a t doesn't understand the depths to which an attachment disorder can affect the client, things can turn ugly on a dime. Not saying that is your situation. Just strongly encouraging you to look at all angles before deciding whether or not to attach.