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Originally Posted by ex vivo
If anything was ever abusive in our therapy though, how he treated me in this last session may have been. And the blaming me for everything--I can't get over how bad this makes me feel about myself. I can't see that transference explains everything.
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I realized in hindsight with my T from 2 yrs ago that therapy didnt really start until things got ugly, following termination. Prior to that we were in familiar roles and playing a sort of game.
I asked for a bit more contact via phone and began pointing out uncomfortable things and asking questions. She got increasingly defensive and hostile.
It's easy to be professional and caring when things are cordial and comfortable. But bad behavior and blaming in response to conflict pretty much turned the whole thing into a fraud for me.