Wow, your whole post was super useful! I hadn't realized that T's can 'pace' attachment -- I'd somehow always thought it just kinda happens (erupts, more like it!) and then the painful / awkward process of attempting to manage it starts....

WanderingBark -- not sure if I have any useful suggestions other than saying that I'm in total agreement with folks who've suggested being very careful and talking it over a lot with your T first (especially expectations).

The whole attachment-in-therapy thing in general gives me some serious heebie-jeebies (I can see how it can happen but still..!) but that could just be my specific neuroses!