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Originally Posted by naia
But anyone who just says it is flat out wrong doesn't understand that there is a process that sometimes requires some dependence. We are social primates. We need each other. We are hard-wired to connect, to depend. How could that be seen as anything but what humans do?
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I'd say the sort of dependency that sometimes develops in therapy
can be flat out wrong. Seems that kind of intense neediness and even addictive clinging is appropriate between infant and mother, but between an adult and a paid professional? I dunno. For me it was disaster. I experienced both significant dependency and obsessive and torturous love for my T. Only thing she could think to do was terminate.
When people talk about entering into these scenarios in therapy, makes me very nervous for them. Raises many questions:
- What is the plan and what is the methodology for containment?
- What happens if it becomes unworkable?
- Who is the therapist, who are they
really, and can you trust them with something so serious?
I agree about social needs and
interdependence, but I have a problem seeing therapist-client relationship in that context. Seems like a weird laboratory version of a real relationship.