Last year my husband had major surgery and for 5 weeks up to the surgery I was having horrible nightmares where I was lost and alone and couldn't find him anywhere. Every night I had a similar dream. We spoke of it and thought it is the fear of the unknown about the surgery and fear of him not making it but we assured each other that everything would work out.

He came out of surgery fine but it was I who got gravely ill the first night we were there. I ended up talking nonesense, not knowing what year it was, and had I high fever so my husband's nurse took me to the ER. I ended up with Sepsis and acute kidney failure and simply put had we NOT been at the hospital for his surgery I would NOT be here today. I would have gone to bed instead of to the hospital and my kidneys would have gone into full shut down.

I don't think I fear death but I hold what is dear much closely now. He faces a similar surgery in a month and I have some anxiety built up around it even though he came through the last one with flying colors and so far I've not had any of those nightmarish dreams.

I think an occasional fear of death is quite normal but if it becomes constant and is interfering with your life I would talk to someone about it. Best wishes!!