We posted at the same time. No, I read all responses but yours actually (because it was not formatted to be read easily; one long paragraph) when I wrote the last post. I then read yours and I completely agree with you.

Others seemed to try to implant the idea that her trust is gone forever somehow, and what has been done is beyond repair, without taking into account that she mentioned that she has been happily married for 11 years, and he hasn't cheated or even talked to anyone (according to her original post), which is a guaranteed road to divorce, and one of them even stated explicitly to "dump him". I don't agree. Men have strong sexual desires, and even if they don't really cheat and fool around, they probably cheat and fool around all the times in their minds. It is not a justification, but rather an understanding that maybe something pushed him to materialize his fantasies.