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Originally Posted by BudFox
Hasn't really been awful in general. Most therapy I have done has been thoroughly inconsequential.
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I'm glad to hear that, in a way. At least, I'd take 'inconsequential' over 'awful' any way.
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Originally Posted by BudFox
But even when the model of advising, guiding, instructing wasn't overt or particularly problematic, the experience was still largely me expressing things, and then having those things interpreted and fed back to me, sometimes in a "corrected" form. A basic assumption of therapy seems to be that the client is suffering due to some internal failure or inability to see clearly, rather than due to their life situation.
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Yeah, that sounds like therapy--having things reflected back at you. Though I've never really seen those two things (suffering due to distorted vision and suffering due to life situation) as being mutually exclusive. That is, I've always sort of been under the impression that most (if not all) distorted vision was directly due to a difficult life situation. That difficult life situations have this tendency to distort vision. And since life situations can not always be changed--and even when they can therapists aren't in the business of directly making that change--then the best anyone can do is try to change the way they
think about the life situation.
But I'd probably feel differently about the matter if I felt that all my problems were external--caused by things outside my control--and that my vision was clear.
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Originally Posted by BudFox
This was never what i needed and indicates a faulty diagnosis. What I needed was connection and understanding. I got that here and there, but it was never fully authentic or mutual.
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I don't have much experience with therapy in a general sense--I've only ever seen the one therapist for the one year--but, in my limited experience, I know that if I'd been looking for connection and understanding without the instructional aspect, I'd have been mighty disappointed. So I can see it being difficult to get what you, personally, need from a therapist.