Well I usually say thanks in my threads. The thing is I don't plan on becoming attached to these people and I know I should probably focus on older women. That said I think I need to explain why I am struggling with this one. We didn't have casual how's the weather chats. She shared some things that I thought were things only very close friends would share. Granted I read this as she being interested. This was going on for eight months and I put some effort in trying to be her friend - I took it too far. About a month ago she told me I was her best friend - this probably means exactly that but I was gone by then and didn't really stop and digest the issue. So last week she posts a picture on Facebook announcing her new flame. What can I tell you I fell for her and it was stupid. Now that I look back I was probably just a tool she used to get through the ending she had with her previous boy friend. What I hate is the learning curve I'm on is too late - I don't want to be doing heartbreak at this late date. This might require not leaving the house because I'm pretty vulnerable and crazy. I've had a long life of inaction which is still haunting me. I've never been married or had a family - never been close. Right now I don't feel like starting a relationship - maybe I'll wake up again. She's actually 25 - I know young but an adult. Thanks everyone!