What Divine said. Totally agree. If you are in your 60's and trying to bond with a 20-something, you're asking for rejection!

I'm sorry you're sad, and I can also identify with your long periods of recovery. I was that way for many years after divorce. I couldn't just bounce back or "get over it!" Eventually, I realized the problem was with ME, and decided to try something different. In my case, I abstained totally from dating till I felt content alone. It took me several years to do this. Now I'm content and don't want to be romantically involved. But I'm older, and my history was never good. Something needed to change, and I finally made it. As for you, I still recommend trying to find contentment alone. It is then you will probably meet someone, if that is your goal. If you're sad or desperate, you'll just drive her away. IF you could get involved in something worthwhile, an organization like Habitat for Humanity, for instance, you might meet someone there. I have coworker who met her spouse while fixing up houses.

I actually DON'T recommend the dating sites, since that is where I encountered many disastrous situations over a number of years. But maybe that is unfair, since others have found their soulmates thru that venue. I just found a bunch of losers on the take, looking for financial and emotional support without giving anything in return. If you are vulnerable, you are open to those sorts. Don't be.