I'm sorry for your difficult situation. You are dealing with an awful lot. Do you derive any benefit from your husband continuing to live with you? I mean, is it financially necessary? Him being there is probably not good for you emotionally because all you get from him is constant rejection and emotional abandonment.

I hope you are looking for a lawyer. You need legal guidance to protect your parental rights, especially since you are being treated for serious psych issues. Eventually, you and he will be apart and there will be the issue of him providing child support. He may become very resentful of that and look to undermine your rights as a mother. You need competent legal counsel starting right now about how to lay the groundwork for your future co-parenting arrangements.

I don't think you are going to get too far talking to him about very much. He's going to do what he's going to do. It might be in your best interest for him to leave and live elsewhere. You and the kids should be able to stay where you are. It's good that you are getting counseling for your mental issues. But you also need counseling that only an attorney can provide.

I hope you have some family or friends that are supportive of you. This sounds like an awful ordeal that you are in the midst of. Losing your husband's love must be very painful. There's no way it won't be. If your marriage is truly over, then you will have to adjust to that. Getting him out of the house might actually help you to do that. Once he is gone, don't try to keep tabs on what he does. He sounds immature and self-centered. Concentrate on the welfare of your children and yourself.