I've come to believe that the average therapist is no better at being honest and non-defensive than the average anybodyelse. They're just people . . . like the rest of us.

I've had therapists get really inappropriately defensive when I raised the concern that therapy was not really helping me. Always, it's the client who isn't doing it right.

I came to the following conclusion about how to end therapy that seems to be going nowhere: You just say, "Thank you so much for all you've helped me to understand. I'm so glad that I now have a much better handle on things. I'll be sure to come back, if I feel like I need to work some more on my issues." Then walk out the door and don't look back. At least you'll leave with an image in your mind of the therapist smiling aprovingly at you.