It's good that you've decided to seek help for overcoming this. I think it was Trippin that mentioned the attraction part. Getting someone out of your head isn't easy. It does take work. Trying to see flaws is certainly a way to approach this. And he certainly seems to have many. Even in your 40's, this one person certainly isn't close to a last shot at romance. When you shed yourself of this emotional burden, take a step back and a good look around you. Perhaps you'll see numerous possibilities. So much so, that you can take your sweet time and be as picky as you want.

Sent from my LGMS631 using Tapatalk