I have tried that and when I'm honest, things actually just get worse and worse and worse. And then somehow it always turns into something huge no matter how I go about it. Trust me. I've tried a lot of things. The way I acted is how I have learned is the only way to deal with it. Because it's actually NOT the reaction he wants. He wants me to be honest and he wants it to build. He literally tries to make things explode. He's a toxic person when he feels crappy and I am stuck with him by circumstance. To be honest, I'm just looking for some understanding.

Although thank you for your reply. I really do appreciate it.