Well in all honesty I personally don't know how to help you.


For me, I combat these types of situations with logic, before they spiral out of control, and even then they're highly uncomfortable and even down right painful, but doesn't seem like your brain leaves any space for logic. Thus your sheer terror at him even being in the men's room for too long.


Have you ever tried talking yourself down when the anxiety is just settling in?


Like do you try to convince yourself with reality and remind yourself that his absence is temporary and it can't actually kill you? That while it feels bad, its not life threatening?


Or do you automatically turn to him to sooth you?


I ask because for one, when we can't self-sooth, we leave the door to pain and panic wide open and become overly dependent on the external source of soothing. People aren't available 24/7, and people can and do disappoint us.


And two, if there's only one person soothing you, they will eventually reach burn out and have no soothing left to give you.


I really wish I could be more helpful. Willing to listen and distract as well as I can though.